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Monday, April 2, 2012

Things I Wish Someone Told Me

Now that I am in my 40's, I sometimes look back and wish I knew then what I know now. Would it have changed much? Probably not but if only someone had been around to tell me...

1. When you get married. You don't just marry the man, you marry the family.

2. People only have control or power over you if you allow them to. You can't control how they treat you or how they act. You can only control how you react to them.

3. That while being a teenager and wishing to get older, it would mean that some people would no longer be here with us (I was 18 when my Papa died, 21 when my Nana died and 23 when Leo's dad died). For example, if I knew that when I turned 21, my Nana wouldn't be here anymore, would I have wished so hard to get there?

4. That when boys are your best friends, at some point, you won't be able to hang out or talk as much because they will get married and things change. By the way, the double standard about this lives and breathes over here over that subject. I am very lucky to be married to a man like Leo who going into this relationship knew I had more guy friends than girlfriends. Less drama that way. :)

5. That you don't have to spend every penny you make the minute you make it. Figures that the only time I live in the moment is when it comes to spending money.

6. All the places you want to travel to, go before you have kids. Once they are here, they are here forever (obviously I knew this but in terms of doing things you won't be able to after the kids are here, I don't think it really sunk in).

7. It doesn't matter whether you follow all the rules of life or how nice you are to others, no one is immune to bad things happening and that's a shame. I think life should work in the way that if you are a good person, bad things won't happen to you. Wouldn't the world be a nicer place?

8. That I married someone that hates new things.

9. When looking for a house, don't just settle because if your husband hates new things, chances are you'll be in that house forever.

10. What life would be like once we entered the travel baseball world and how just when I thought I had seen enough baseball games to last a lifetime, the younger one enters it so instead of 50 games, I'll have to watch 100 games. Okay, maybe I'm might be more like 80 games because that is SO much better (sarcasm oozing from the keyboard).

11. How exhausting it is to clean up after 4 children and a husband. When I played house when I was little and dreamed of being a wife and mother, that was never a part of it.

12. That once you are married and have kids, you'll be cooking, cleaning and doing laundry FOREVER.

13. To ride the waves of happiness for as long as you can because inevitably something will happen that you'll have to muddle through until the next wave of happiness comes.

14. Enjoy your body before you have kids because the work it will take to get it back to the way it was sucks.

15. The moments that I thought were such a big deal (letting Nico walk home from school, go to a boy/girl party, sleep at a friends) were nothing compared to the things that are coming.

16. Not to get sick or need anything medical at all otherwise be prepared to be in insurance Hell FOREVER! What the insurance companies try and get away with is a travesty. It doesn't matter if you follow all the rules, they still try and find a way not to pay. I know...I am lucky to have insurance...I'm just afraid to get sick and have to try and use it.

There is more but that's enough for now.


At April 17, 2012 at 6:24 AM , Blogger Brandi said...

I enjoyed reading your list. Such great advice. I found myself nodding my head at (just about) everything you mentioned! : )

At April 17, 2012 at 7:48 AM , Blogger AnnMarie said...

Thanks so much for stopping by! Glad you could relate!


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