Email

I have said before that I answer emails right away because I am usually at my computer writing. At the very least, if you email me at night, I'll email you the next morning. Maybe because of this, my expectations are too high. I don't expect emails right away. People are busy, life is crazy for everyone but never? Or days later? Weeks later? I just don't understand how you run a business and never answer your emails or don't answer them for weeks. I used to call my cleaning lady (or the boss's daughter because she was the contact person) and ask if I could switch my days or if I had questions and the same thing would happen. She'd have to hang up with me and contact my actual cleaning lady or ask her mom. I thought email would be better because I could ask my question, she could get the answer and email me back. This has not been the case. I ask my question and there is no answer until I email again or call and ask if she got my email and she says yes and acts like she has already answered me. I am in that cycle right now.

I am still floored with the people that we have entrusted our children to. Their lack of communication shows how little they really do care (whether that is the case or not). I emailed Nico's teachers just letting them know that he wasn't feeling 100% and that he wasn't slacking but didn't want to miss school and did they notice anything? I was trying to figure out if he was coming down with what the rest of us have or if he was just tired from his crazy schedule. Half the teachers responded with two answering my question and one saying he has checked out so she can't tell if it's because he is sick. I wanted very badly to respond and say that he isn't the only one that has checked out. Having half your class fail a test and still count it without reteaching and letting them take it again sounds like someone else has checked out. I didn't say that because I just want to be done. I remember when Nico was playing basketball for the school and he was going to miss a practice because of the fundraiser we did so I emailed the coach telling him. I wanted Nico to just tell him but he was afraid his coach was going to be mad. There was never a response. Not a "No problem" or "Good luck" or even "I'm not happy about him missing and he'll have to sit for the first half of the next game." Nothing. I guess he felt that he didn't have to since he told Nico it was fine. I remember my dad coaching (for all my life) and he loved those kids like they were his own. He didn't just care about them on the field or court, he cared about them off as well so maybe he set the bar too high. As far as me letting the teachers know he was sick, I probably didn't have to and maybe they were bothered by the email but how about, "Hope he feels better." I keep hearing, "Wait until high school. It is so much worse. There is no communication at all." I get that and I think that by then, he'll be ready to handle the communication on his own and I actually look forward to passing the baton to him but he isn't in high school yet. He is only 13 and they shouldn't stress "communication is key" if they don't plan on holding up their end. Believe me, I know that not everyone has to care about my son, but I would hope that the people he learns from, whether in school or in sports do.


Edited to add: I might have been a little harsh with the one teacher that said he has lost focus or checked out. She did hope that he felt better and to keep her posted.